Empathy
By Jonathan Kuttab
One thing that is always missing in people’s approach to Palestine/Israel is empathy: the ability to put yourself in the shoes of another person, see things from their perspective, and be willing to apply to yourself the same standards you apply to others. In short, it is the Golden Rule promulgated by Christianity, Judaism and Islam among others. This is lacking among most of the antagonists on the ground, but it is also equally lacking in many of their respective supporters abroad.
The lack of empathy became crystal clear this past week in the public discourses surrounding Israeli and Palestinian babies:
The entire nation of Israel was gripped by a frenzy of anguish and disgust over confirmation of the deaths and release of the bodies of the Bibas babies, Ariel and Kfir, aged 9 months and 4 years old, who were kidnapped together with their mother on October 7. The manner in which their bodies were returned (including the snafu of initially returning the wrong body of the mother) as part of the ceasefire agreement between Hamas and Israel was also a subject of fraught discussion. Haaretz reports that the reactions of the Israeli public, politicians, and commentators were the fiercest they had been since October 7. Israeli officials further claimed that their forensic examination indicates that the babies had been “beaten to death by hand,” not killed in an Israeli air strike as Hamas claims. Neither account of their death could be verified independently. Amidst the anguish and trauma, calls for vengeance, genocide, and the killing of all Gazans have been nearly unprecedented. While I do not know a single Palestinian who justifies the kidnapping of babies and I have seen no reports of anyone making statements supporting it, the reaction by most Palestinians was to repeat the Hamas line that they had been killed by an Israeli airstrike and that Hamas had offered to return their bodies as late as November. Few offered any heartfelt regret, apology, or understanding for the horror, anguish, and utter depravity of kidnapping innocent babies in the first place. That was a clear failure of empathy.
Meanwhile, the heart-wrenching story appeared about seven Palestinian babies who died of hyperthermia in Gaza from the cold weather this week. Their homes had been destroyed, and their families could not get heat in their tents or the prefabricated caravans, promised but not delivered which had been part of the agreement. There was insufficient fuel and no medical facilities. Seven babies died from the cold, and others are in critical conditions at the understaffed remains of medical facilities still operating in Gaza. These babies will be added to the long list of babies killed in Gaza, including the ones left in the incubators at the Nasser Hospital when it was forcibly evacuated and were left to die as the Israeli army failed to care for them. Israeli (and especially US) media failed to mention those babies and their deaths. Their names are not known, and their numbers are disputed (as Palestinian sources are continually treated with suspicion). Some popular Israeli social media accounts even mocked and gloated over their deaths. Again, this is a massive failure in the display of empathy.
The point is not to show who suffered more, or even to pretend there is any symmetry between the two sides. Each and every death of these babies is a tragedy of immense dimensions. One baby killed, one innocent life snuffed out is equivalent to the destruction of an entire universe. And, failure to give proper dignity to the enemy deceased is equally appalling on both sides. Rather than use these outrages as a call for revenge and justification for further atrocities, or excuse them by pointing to atrocities on the other side, there is a need for empathy, compassion and deep understanding of the sorrow of others and of their loss and grief.
This is not just a call for fairness, justice and equity. It is a basic need for the survival of all people. Whatever the past injustices or traumas experienced by anyone, the current reality is that 14 million people currently live in the Holy Land, roughly half of them Jewish and the other half Arab, and they seem destined to live together for the foreseeable future. They cannot however enjoy any kind of life if either of them thinks of the other as subhuman or illegitimate, as totally evil, vile creatures who need to be destroyed, denied equal rights, or physically eliminated. Empathy begins the process of healing our traumas and forces us to think of new modalities of behavior that include the rights and humanity of others.
As Palestinians and Israeli Jews struggle with the herculean task of exercising empathy, despite their own fears or traumas, there is absolutely no excuse for failure of those of us with a little more distance from the horror to exercise empathy and recognize the humanity of all God’s children—if only for the babies involved.
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While there is no equivalency in duration or depth of violence and impunity, we have an opportunity to learn from people who have resisted occupation their entire lives and from those who may or may not have experienced it comparatively recently. Speakers will share their lived experiences, contrast strategies of resistance, shared learning and explore opportunities for solidarity and collective action. Through this exchange, we aim to center community agency, hope, and shared learning, and uplifting practices of resilience and organizing.
The webinar will be hosted by Mel Duncan, from Minnesota, co-founder of the Nonviolent Peaceforce and organizer of the Unarmed Civilian Protection in Palestine (UCPiP). And speakers include Amira Musallam, Head of Mission of UCPiP, Maddie Moon, Minnesota community organizer, and Emilia Gonzalez Avalos, Executive Director for UNIDOS MN.
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- Share lessons learned from grassroots resistance in both contexts
- Build and invite compassion and mutual understanding
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Dear friends,
Nonviolence International warmly invites you to join us for two special evenings in Washington DC with Sami Awad, Palestinian activist, author, and NVI Co-Director.
For activists, Palestine has become a powerful lens for understanding injustice in the world. But today it reveals something deeper: the United States is not simply supporting Israel, it sits at the heart of a global system of empire. The same forces shaping domination abroad are also shaping power, repression, and inequality within the United States itself. This means the struggle is not just about changing policy. In these talks and based on his own journey, Sami invites us to expand our resistance, from a liberation struggle focused on one place to confronting the empire itself.
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From Occupation to Empire: Rethinking Resistance
All Souls Church Unitarian
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6:30 – 8:30 PM (with Iftar observance)
1500 Harvard Street NW
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From Palestine to Empire: Reframing Resistance
Busboys & Poets
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450 K St NW, Mount Vernon Square
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These gatherings are an opportunity for community members, advocates, and anyone interested in nonviolent change to hear directly from a leading voice in Palestinian civil resistance and to explore pathways toward a more just and peaceful future.
We hope you can join us and help spread the word.
With appreciation,
Michael Beer, Co-Director
P.S. These are free events. If you want, please make a donation to Souls 4 Palestine and generously order food and drinks at Busboys and Poets to help them thrive.
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Dear Friends,
The Middle East (West Asia), and the world, are facing deeply dangerous moments.
The recent war by the United States and Israel on Iran has pushed an already fragile region closer to a wider and potentially devastating war. In moments like this, it can feel as though the machinery of violence moves unchecked, while ordinary people and civil society are left watching helplessly.
But history reminds us that this is precisely when our voices matter most.
Civil society has always carried a sacred responsibility in times of crisis: to speak when others are silent, to insist on humanity when violence dominates the headlines, and to remind the world that another path, embedded in nonviolence, is still possible.
A coalition of organizations is therefore launching an urgent international petition calling for immediate de-escalation, restraint, ceasefire and diplomacy instead of further militarization.
In the midst of despair, this is our moment to act together.
We invite NGOs, human rights organizations, faith communities, peace networks, and civil society groups to add their voices, to affirm that the expansion of the war is not inevitable.
Please sign your organization’s name to the appeal here by Tuesday, 10 March 2026.
This petition recognizes and encourages governments that have shown restraint, while urging all parties to step back from the brink and pursue diplomacy, accountability, and international law. But signing the petition is only the beginning.
At this critical time, we also encourage you to:
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Contact your government representatives and urge them to support immediate de-escalation and ceasefire efforts.
• Share this appeal with partner organizations and networks so that more civil society groups can join.
• Speak publicly for peace and for the protection of civilians across the region.
There are moments in history when the future feels uncertain and dark. Yet those same moments have often become the turning points when ordinary people and courageous organizations refused to accept that violence was inevitable.
We cannot control the decisions of governments or armies. But we can ensure that the voice of humanity, justice, and nonviolence is heard clearly across the world. Hope is not passive. It is something we practice together.
Let us take up that responsibility now.
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In solidarity,